“Love is all you need,” The Beatles said it a long time ago. The thing is, that most people don’t feel that they have enough love in their life.
In 2010, a survey by the Fetzer Institute shows that 68% of Americans believe that they want more significant love in their personal lives while 95% thinks that the world needs more love.
Love is a basic human emotion and is considered as one of the most important one. So, how is it possible the lack of love in so many lives? We even see constantly the word “love” in every place due to the advertising, from food to material goods like cosmetics and shoes.
But the authentic love that so many people wish to have in their lives is more than just excitement for the latest popular footwear.
An authentic and sincere love can be a creative and potent force, so powerful that can inspire people to create symphonies, and trek for weeks, or erect a colossal mausoleum, or just making emotive sacrifices.
But it can also make us vulnerable, and when opening up about your feeling is possible to get rejected. Love needs patient, courage and a lot of effort, difficult things to keep in a highly superficial society.
And while most people want to find romantic love, this can come in different ways and contexts. If you want to get more love you should know that it involves more than just dating tips. In fact, you will have to make changes in your inner self if you want to find true love with an honest meaning. Check the next steps to help you enrich your life with love:
You Must Start By Loving Yourself First
One of the basic things that you must keep in mind is that before loving someone you should feel it for yourself first. And though this might be a common line among many people, most people don’t know how to do it.
According to Dr. Karen Wyatt, author of the award-winning book “What Really Matters: 7 Lessons for Living from the Stories of the Dying,” loving yourself means that you must find different practical ways or routines that could help you authentically who you are in this moment.
One way to do it is by going by yourself on a solo-“date” each week so you can spend some time alone while enjoying something that you like, for instance:
- Go to a concert of your favorite band.
- You can visit your favorite museums or your favorite coffee place to read a great book with a latte.
- Or go for a hike.
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“As you spend this time with yourself, focus your intention on truly loving YOU and filling yourself up with positive feelings and energy.” Wyatt said. “The more you concentrate on loving yourself the more you will radiate positive feelings of love toward others and attract their love in return.”
Recognize Any Hidden Barrier to Love
“Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it,” wrote the Rumi, the Sufi poet a long time ago.
You might not realize, but there’s a possibility that you have inner barriers that prevent you from receiving and giving love to people. Maybe, you are hurt from a hurtful past relationship, or you might be fear of people and you feel vulnerable.
A way to solve this is by writing in a journal every day, contemplating all of your bad romantic experiences in the past, and also the way you feel about opening yourself to love.
From the moment, you identify the inner barriers to love you can start healing your wounds. According to Wyatt, this is considered the most important step if you want to strengthen your ability to love other people.
Start Practicing the Lovingkidness Blessing
There’s a Buddhist blessing called “Metta,” which can work as a great reminder that you should practice to love others and yourself everyday. The five phrases of the “Metta” are:
May I be at peace / May my heart remain open / May I realize the beauty of my own true nature / May I be healed / May I be a source of healing for this world.
If you practice this blessing on a daily basis, you will be able to feel how your heart gets bigger in open space with kindness for everyone around you and yourself. In the blessing, you can change each “I” to “you” if you want to send your love to another person.
According to Dr. Wyatt, a great way to start attracting love is by using your energy and time to help other people. You can participate as a volunteer in any program or an animal shelter, this way you will be able to give love to those that need love in their lives.
When you share your love without expecting anything in return, you will find out that love will be running freely in your life, discovering that you are blessed in different ways. This way people who appreciate your generosity and love will start getting close to you.
Keep Your Heart Open
A method called the Inner Ease Technique developed by the HeartMath Institute is an everyday practice that you can do alongside with the Lovingkindness Blessing to start opening up your heart. This is the routine:
- First, put your hand on your chest where the heart is, and start imagine that your heart is breathing in and out.
- Remember to breathe smoothly and slow, keep it like this until your breath is balanced and not forced.
- With every breath you take, let enter into your heart a feel of self-love, inner-ease and balance.
If you start doing this practice every day, you can start feeling how stress and anxiety gets reduce in your life and stat opening your heart to others.
Use Every Situation To Find Love
According to Dr. Wyatt, “as you open your heart to love and expand your capacity to express love for yourself and other, you will begin to see love everywhere you go.” She said, “then love can become your ‘default mechanism’ so that you will choose love whenever you are in a situation of doubt or uncertainty.”
For instance, if you start fighting with a friend or a co-worker, go for the solution that holds the most amount of love. According to Dr. Wyatt, when someone is facing a crisis you should let love become your guide.
From the moment you start practicing the different ways to attract love in your life, you would realize that your life has all the love that you ever needed but you never able to see it. When someone is a talking and a walking vision of love, people will feel attracted to your striking presence.